How to develop and deepen our ability to cope when life serves up BIGStuff issues. Resiliency helps us with our relationships, health, happiness, school grades, graduation and peace of mind. Plus job success, aging with more ease and so much more.
Yes? Lots of family,
friends and festivities I bet. How very wonderful.
No? Drats; to much darn
drama? Well it does happen in the best of families.
Well it's that time of
year. Based on years of guilt, oh wait I mean tradition many tell us we are all
supposed to set New Years goals and resolutions to better our lives. However,
we know that does not work for most of us. So, as a reformed New Years
resolution goal setter lets talk. Don't set those regular goals. Instead lets
talk about setting some goals worth attaining, free to do and have the potential
to offer very large payback for our health for ourselves and our families.
So as you settle back in to
"everyday" living again post holiday's here are three things you do.
Note I am being very bold I didn't say consider or try, I said do. Why? Well they
are life altering.
The Ultimate Gifts
What am I talking about? Well
I'm talking about the ultimate gifts we need to give ourselves that contribute
to our mental, emotional and physical well being. I call them The BIG Three!
The Big Three
Sleep is the first one. Most of us don't get enough sleep
and or a high quality sleep. There is a large price we pay if we don’t give
ourselves a high quality nights sleep. Oh I know kids, work, neighbours, hobbies,
cleaning, and so many other events can get in the way. However sleep helps
restore us mentally, emotionally and physically.
So if you've not waking up
feeling relaxed and well rested perhaps even energized after a night's sleep 6
out of 7 nights a week then it's time for a change. Note I said 6 out of 7. The
goal is not perfection but excellence. So cut back on the TV and or coffee. Go
to bed 90 minutes earlier, work in some exercise and stretching for a few
minutes everyday. Walk the stairs, walk to the store or bike when weather
permits. Also consider, use a little caution on what you eat or drink for your
last meal, dessert and snacks pre bed if it can or does interrupt your sleep. Ask
me about my love of hot and spicy Thai food and interrupted sleep when we meet.
Develop and deepen your
inner calmness through working mediation into your everyday life. You
can do it through walking, eating (Think Slow Food movement), exercising, you
hobbies In fact just about anything that requires an even tempo. Slow that
tempo down to under 72 beats a minute. Add
slow music it will help pull you down to a slower tempo.
Last and not least of the
Big Three is Relaxation
My favourite way to relax
is, well I fibbed I don’t have a favourite way to relax, I have several. I find
that exercise helps, playing music, hiking, walking, baking, Epson salts bath
with peppermint oil, reading and underwater swimming, dimmable lights and lit
candles in the room. All help me lower my heart rate and breath a little deeper
and slower.So what do you do for 12 –
20 minutes at least once a day to slow down. It’s a very restorative and
rejuvenating gift to give yourself.
Lets wrap this up!
So I am quite certain like many
of my clients I can hear you say But, But, BUT
I don't have time for any of this. Well the BIG Three offer skills and mindsets
with very large pay backs. The gifts of better health, concentration, focus,
productivity, and happiness all wrapped up inside these three mindsets,
behaviors and skills. Each helps build on the other. They will help you
feel restored, relaxed and renewed. Better yet they don’t cost any money. Give
yourself the gift. Oh and, your welcome.
So until next time Imagine yourself with more Resiliency for Life!
About Michael Ballard
Michael specializes in
helping people, families, organizations and community’s learn how to thrive
with resiliency. Resilience is a process, a set of key assets, skills and beliefs
that can change our lives. Resiliency can changes the quality of our journey
and often the quality of the outcomes.
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