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Wednesday, 22 February 2017

Perspective & Thought Distortions Prt 1

Perspective, Thought Distortions & Cognitive Distortions 


Learning to filter our thoughts 
is a very powerful skill.
So here are some of the common Thought Distortions I see my clients have:

Keep Things in Perspective. Even when facing BIGStuff events that could include loss and grief, try to consider the stressful situation in a BIG picture point of view and keep both a short term and longterm set of outcomes in place.


Perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion. If you don't, it can lead to what some call Thought Distortions. 
Thought Distortions can be caused in part by a very narrow focus. We get pulled off side by our pain and grief.


Learning to not think everyone is against us is
 a very powerful & healthy mindset to achieve 


Over Generalization In this thought distortion, we come to a conclusion based on a single issue or a single incident or single piece of evidence. If something bad happens even just once, we expect it to happen repeatedly. A person can get caught in a cycle of seeing a one time only event as part of a never-ending pattern of negative issues in their life.
Jumping to Conclusions Individuals who jump to conclusions feel that without others even saying so, they know what others are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, they are able to determine how people are feeling toward them.
For example, a person may conclude that someone is reacting poorly toward them but doesn’t take the time to find out if they are correct; or a person may feel that things will turn out badly, and will be convinced that their thoughts are already an established fact!

These are just two of the mindsets we need to take care not to fall into.

So, until next time I wish you a life filled with Resiliency for Life! Just Imagine Yourself with more Resilience.


Michael Ballard

www.ResiliencyforLife.com
https://twitter.com/resilientmichae
www.YouTube.com/MichaelHBallard






Wednesday, 4 January 2017

Mind Traps


Avoid Mind Traps or Thinking TrapsWhen things go wrong, do you automatically blame yourself or others? Jump to conclusions? Mind Traps place us in very narrow self-limiting ways of thinking and feeling. They limit our options and our happiness. Life is to short to let our Mind Traps place us in less productive ways of behaviour. How will you challenge yourself to rid yourself of your Mind Traps?

I found reading the book Six Thinking Hats very useful in break free of Mind Traps. The book gets you to consider six ways to approach and consider our challenges in life.


So until next time, Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life.

Michael

Michael Ballard specializes in helping people, schools, teams
organizations and communities learn how to become more resilient.


Contacting Michael
To interview Michael, book him for your 
next event or to contact him you can do that at:
Inquiry@MichaelHBallard.com

You can purchase Michael's programming on:
Udemy.com video programs at:

 iTunes.com audio programs at:


Michael’s Social Media includes:
https://soundcloud.com/michael-h-ballard

Tuesday, 13 December 2016

Self Discovery

Look for Opportunities for Self-Exploration. 

People often learn something about themselves and may find that they have grown in some respect as a result of their struggle with loss and grief. People who have experienced BIGStuff loss and grief often have reported better relationships, a greater sense of self confidence even while feeling vulnerable, an increased sense of self-worth, a more developed spirituality and a heightened appreciation for life.

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I meet Elmo after a meeting
at a children's hospital.
So as you go through life's ups and downs and some of the ultimate hardships don't forget that:
 - Our point of view is a choice
 - Asking for help is building a team 
 - Sleep is not optional We all need at least 7 / 9 hrs a day
 - Food is fuel for our mind and body Quality of food impacts our health in all categories
 - Exercise can be worked into our day 
 - Honour, laughter, joy, and happiness can be planned. 
       
Why wait?
These basic have made a very amazing difference to me. It's up to you to ensure you follow through on them every day.

Life is too important to take it so seriously.

So until next time, Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life.

Michael Ballard specializes in helping people, schools, organizations and communities learn how to become more resilient.

To book Michael for your next event, interview him or to consult contact him at: Inquiry@MichaelHBallard.com

Michael's online programming can be taken at: Udemy.com
Michael’s Background and Social Media pages include:
https://about.me/resilientmichael
www.ResiliencyforLife.com





Tuesday, 29 November 2016

The Power of Prayer and of Asking for Group Prayer


Prayer is a very powerful way to be in touch with our creator and those that have gone before us. We can pray alone, pray in small and large groups and as I've learned to ask for; prayer for us or a vital cause near and dear to us. 
Sometimes the journey is more interesting
There are often no shortcuts.
Sometimes we have to take the stairs
At 27 I was challenged by my cancer. I learned days after surgery that I had cancer in four locations I felt several emotions. Anger was there at first very briefly. I did then soon feel afraid, alone at 3:30 am some mornings and in part hopeless that I had to depend on others to help me get through this fight for my life.
Then in conversations with my Mom and Dad ~ Dad asked So what else can I do son?
Well Dad how about you ask your friends via your work intranet service to put me in their faith prayer groups. I can remember that like yesterday.
Within a few days he called back and told me I was in prayer groups around the world. By end of the week he announced I was in over 60 prayer groups. Dad and Mom where very pleased and amazed.

Dad shared with me "Son you're being prayed for in Temples, Mosques, Synagogues, Revival Halls, Gospel Halls, Churches  and on every continent expect Antartica. India, Australia, Japan, England, New Zealand, France, Canada, and all over the USA and Canada including Texas, Michigan, Georgia, New York, Colorado, British Columbia, and many many other locations in North America.

I quickly started to feel uplifted. What an incredible life altering experience to have. 60+ prayer groups all asking for me to gain some wisdom from my journey and if possible a healing. So here I am 25 years later. Surprised and delighted and humbled to still be here. Three near death experiences during that 7 year battle with 2 bouts of cancer and one emergency surgery due to a failed medical procedure.

Never ever doubt that prayer can assist guide you and alter the quality of your journey and experience. Just remember what will you ask for you when you pray?
So, until next time, Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency forLife.


Hiring and Contacting Michael
To interview Michael, book him for your
next event or to contact him you can do that at:
Inquiry@MichaelHBallard.com
www.MichaelHBallard.com
You can purchase Michael's programming on:
Udemy.com video programs at:
https://www.udemy.com/u/michaelhballard/
 iTunes.com audio programs at:
https://itunes.apple.com/album/id997763796?ls=1&app=itunes
Michael’s Social Media includes:
https://twitter.com/ResilientMichae
https://about.me/resilientmichael
https://www.linkedin.com/company/resiliency-for-life/
https://soundcloud.com/michael-h-ballard
http://www.resiliencyforlife.com



I very soon started to feel uplifted. Very very uplifted. Statistically I'm 

So the next time you feel challenged and or threatened by one of life's bumps in the road don't forget the power of prayer and the power of asking others to assist with that prayer.

Michael

Friday, 11 November 2016

Lest We Forget

Today, I honour all those who have gone before us and served their country's.
Some paid the ultimate sacrifice. Some came home missing a limb, or deeply
challenged with mental health issues. Some did not serve on the front lines, yet
they served us all. Perhaps like my Grandfather Ballard one of your relatives
served in a supportive role. Grandfather Ballard served in the Merchant Marines.
He helped repair submarines from dusk to dawn working with machinists and other
metal workers repairing and or fabricating replacement parts.

His brother was killed in WWI World War One in France. That was supposed to be
the war to end all wars.
Pte. James Frank Ballard
My Grandfather was at sea during most of that war. So he was not home when the news was delivered that his brother Pte. James Frank Ballard had been killed.
Henry Ballard 1970's

Perhaps one of your relatives served in WWII or one of the countless large and small conflicts and wars this crazy world has seen over the past 100 plus years.

Regardless of who's side one is on this I know to be true, it takes courage to show up and be on time and on purpose to serve ones country. Countless hours of practise, more practise, often not in the best weather or location or with the best kit (gear). Yet they serve.
Today I pay tribute to all of my relatives and friends past and present who have or had served our nation. Lest We Forget.

So the next time you're having a less than perfect day don't forget to have some gratitude that you and I are able to have this time. They invested and paid a large price for us to have this liberty.

So don't forget to be grateful. Our freedoms come due to a very large investment from many.

Monday, 17 October 2016

Smallest Party in the World "The Pity Party"


It is a trap that we can all fall into if we are not cautious and stay attentive to our thoughts and words and the resulting feelings that can go along with it.

We've all had that "Party for One" the "Pity Party" when life seems to be going in the wrong direction! Plus how many of us have tried inviting others to join in our pity parties?  
However there is nothing wrong with sharing the cause of our pain be it health, relationships, job, school or family issues. However what does cause us grief is if we chose to live in this grief. Some live in it daily, weekly monthly or yearly. It is acceptable to visit our grief yet living in it can cause us quite a bit of harm.

Building a support team, offering support in another area to others can help us start to move forward.  So a Pity Party of One is an okay place to land after an upset. Staying there and not moving forward is the biggest issue.

Who will you offer to help to help yourself move forward and in what category?
Who will you ask for help to assist you move forward and in what category?

So there is no time like the present! Go get em! 



So until next time, Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life.



Michael

Michael Ballard specializes in helping people, schools, organizations and communities learn how to become more resilient.


Hiring and Contacting Michael
To interview Michael, book him for your 
next event or to contact him you can do that at:
Inquiry@MichaelHBallard.com

You can purchase Michael's programming on:
Udemy.com video programs at:

 iTunes.com audio programs at:


Michael’s Social Media includes:


Sunday, 25 September 2016

The Power of Persistance Creating Positive Outcomes

There is strength and positive outcomes when we stay focused and persistant.
Not that we won't have to make course corrections, do some back peddling from time-to-time and on occasion take a new approach. Yet persistence to see a project to completion is a vital set of traits.

So the next time you want to walk away from an issue remember the following statistics.
80% of a sales B2B are made on the fifth to twelfth contact.



So take heart that the no's you're getting along with the, not now, it's the wrong time, we're very happy with our current situation (and there are dozens more) are delaying tactics. They aren't ready for your message, your services or products. Perhaps they are close minded, really are happy in their current situation and (I know you've heard so many of them) so, regardless a new angle, a redesigned approach, a change in approach can and will make a difference.

Don't give up on yourself.

So until next time, Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life.

No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and NEVER give up!
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