Perspective & Thought Distortions Part 2

Who do you allow to
challenge your thinking?

Thought Distortions can also include:


Always Being Right.

We are continually on trial to prove that our opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and we will go to any length to demonstrate our rightness. For example, “I don’t care how badly arguing with me makes you feel, I’m going to win this argument no matter what because I’m right.” Being right often is more important than the feelings of others around a person who engages in this cognitive distortion, even loved ones.

Going to a calm place and staying there
can help us examine our thoughts.

Heaven’s Reward Fallacy. 

We expect our sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if someone is keeping score. We feel bitter when the reward doesn’t arrive.

So thought distortions can get in the way of our happiness, health and success in life. What do you do to keep yours to a minimum?

Until next time Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life!

Michael Ballard
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Perspective & Thought Distortions Prt 1

Perspective, Thought Distortions & Cognitive Distortions 

Learning to filter our thoughts 
is a very powerful skill.

So here are some of the common Thought Distortions I see my clients have:

Keep Things in Perspective. Even when facing BIGStuff events that could include loss and grief, try to consider the stressful situation in a BIG picture point of view and keep both a short term and longterm set of outcomes in place.

Perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion. If you don't, it can lead to what some call Thought Distortions. 

Thought Distortions can be caused in part by a very narrow focus. We get pulled off side by our pain and grief.

Learning to not think everyone is against us is
 a very powerful & healthy mindset to achieve 

Over Generalization In this thought distortion, we come to a conclusion based on a single issue or a single incident or single piece of evidence. If something bad happens even just once, we expect it to happen repeatedly. A person can get caught in a cycle of seeing a one time only event as part of a never-ending pattern of negative issues in their life.

Jumping to Conclusions Individuals who jump to conclusions feel that without others even saying so, they know what others are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, they are able to determine how people are feeling toward them.

For example, a person may conclude that someone is reacting poorly toward them but doesn’t take the time to find out if they are correct; or a person may feel that things will turn out badly, and will be convinced that their thoughts are already an established fact!

These are just two of the mindsets we need to take care not to fall into.

So, until next time I wish you a life filled with Resiliency for Life! Just Imagine Yourself with more Resilience.

Michael Ballard
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3 Things to Deepen Your Ability to Thrive

Resiliency is traditionally defined as our ability to spring back from and successfully adapt to adversity. Resilient people are often flexible in their thinking,  endure difficulty with a realistic outlook and use the experience in self- empowering ways. I'd add it always increase the quality of the experience. 

Get out and exercise That helps us in all areas of our life. 
Don't hide behind too much task based "work"

Resilience is in part due to our journey to date, lessons learned, skills applied, used and the networks we have developed, managed and engaged in that we support and in turn support us in return. 

Maintain a Hopeful Outlook. An realistic yet optimistic outlook enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try visualizing what you want, rather than worrying about what you fear.

Take the time to get out and be social.Invest in the time to meet and engage with others people

Exercise regularly.

Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience. 

Go in for a check up or a "tune up". It can be life altering for some of us. Better to catch things when they are  annoying then when it's either too late or a serious change to your life.

Get a check up!

Take the time to play. One can get so task focused that we don't take the time to relax and play. What do you love to do? When is the last time you did it? I love to bike, roller blade, swim, read, and practise photography. Not all at once. But for 20 - 90 minutes I do one or more of those several times a week. 

What will you do? Plan it. Make it on purpose. 

Until next time Imagine Yourself with more Resiliency for Life.

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